Apr 182016
 

A screenshot of my new blog: "Make Them Play". More content to follow soon!

A screenshot of my new blog: “Make Them Play”. More content to follow soon!

Lately I haven’t been posting as much to this blog as I used to. The reason?

Work!

When I was doing an assignment I would find that outside of working hours I wanted to think about anything and everything except for the thing that made me money. And the result was a constant stream of ideas for blog-posts.

Now I’m designing board-games and I find that all my thoughts go towards… Designing board-games. Or marketing of board-games. And playing board-games. Changing the game I’m working on. A new idea for a game. Or… Board-games!

And while this is very interesting (to me), it’s in general not very personal.

When I started this blog (over 5 years ago!) it was to keep friends and family informed of my then-travels. It expanded a bit, to include mental and emotional travels as well, but it was always about something that very directly impacted my life.

Now, I’m finding myself having all these other ideas (yes, about board-games) that I want to share.

I could re-purpose this blog, turn it into something about board-games. But I can’t imagine most of the people that read it now would be overly interested. While (hopefully) a whole bunch of new people would come in.

So a better option is to start a new blog, where I can share my more “work” related ideas, whilst keeping this one for the personal stuff.

It feels a bit weird to talk about one blog on another, but hey, if it works…
When you’re reading this, “Make Them Play” will be life. The idea of it is to learn about board-games, for the reader, but just as much for myself. This will mean thoughts, experiments, philosophy. You might be interested and if so, please do start following it. Or you might not be; feel free to ignore it.

This will mean I most likely will have even less inclination to write here. My idea is to keep writing about personal stuff when it feels important, but I can’t predict when that will be and I’m most certainly not going to force myself.

Perpetual Wonder might have fewer updates or it might die a quiet death. Both of which are fine: All things in life are transient. Things on the internet especially! 🙂

Thanks for reading so far!


Bastiaan ReininkI’m Bastiaan. This blog is meant to give you some insight into the things I run into and perhaps to inspire you to go in search of your own life extraordinaire.

If you enjoyed this (or another) post, if you have something to add or to ask, I would really appreciate it if you would leave a comment!

Jan 112015
 

It is hard to imagine that the first blog post I wrote (on a different incarnation of this blog) was in September 2010. Four entire years, plus a few months, I’ve been typing away. I strongly believe that people get something out of what they do, thus so must I, I’d think.

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I'm writing this on a plane, so not a lot of possibility to look for a fitting picture. Instead, have some llamas!

When I started I wrote about my travels, with the idea that this way I wouldn’t have to send out endless emails. But already during that first long trip I found it meant more to me. Writing (for me) is a way to order my thoughts and to make sense of my feelings. Once upon a time I used a diary for that, but I’ve found that writing where others can read it helps me to stay on target, limit my words and think this through just a bit better; I write less nonsense (can you imagine what my diaries were like?!?).

Also, I have a small hope of actually touching the people that read my blog.  Maybe you will think deeper about something,  be inspired or will wholly disagree with my words. I like to connect.

The thing is,  I don’t really know. I know that I have a group of readers who come back regularly. But I don’t know why. What do you get out of this?

Do I connect with you? Do you feel obliged because you know me in real life? Which posts do you enjoy, which are boring? What would you like more of, what less?

This blog exists for me, but just as much for you. So please let me know what you think? Write me a message (b period d period reinink at gmail period com) or just leave a comment? Thanks!

Jan 092015
 

”If only I had the time!”

Never enough time for the important stuff, as the unimportant keeps interrupting...

Never enough time for the important stuff, as the unimportant keeps interrupting…

I would write my book, repair my saxophone, build the last part of my cupboard. I would start working on that model that has been in the back of my mind for over a year now. I would read all these wonderful books…

So many things to do, so little time to do them in.

In about 2.5 hours I’ll be heading off to the airport to fly back to London. I still need to pack my bag, but that should be 15 minutes. I need to have a bite to eat, but again, that won’t take up too much time. So, I have give-or-take two hours of unallocated time. And yet the question that pops up is: ”What can I do?!?”

Two hours isn’t anywhere near enough to finish my book or my cupboard or the model. It might be enough to fix my saxophone, but together with gathering all the stuff required (the screwdriver basically) and not having a clue about fixing saxophones, it just seems there is too high a risk I won’t be able to finish it in time.

And so I sit here, not so much bored, as restless. (Luckily there is always a blog-post to be written, something I do know I can finish within this amount of time.)

Writing a book or building a cupboard aren’t things to finish in an afternoon, they take days (weeks, months) of putting in a bit of effort, consistently. That consistency however is lacking; I know I won’t put in the effort tomorrow (or any day the coming two weeks), so why put it in now?

There were times when I really did put the effort in. While I was living in Lima for a few months I really had nothing better to do, so I actually wrote. I guess I understand those people who chose isolation for their work a bit better…
This of course becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, I don’t work on it today so there is no incentive to work on it tomorrow and knowing that I won’t work on it tomorrow, why do anything today? Because of course the goal is to finish whatever I’m working on.

And then I remember: Enjoy the process.

I write because I enjoy writing. I do woodworking because I enjoy pushing chisels through dead trees.

And I do. I really do! I love writing. I love woodworking. There is however something in me that really dislikes starting to write. It’s always easier to do something else, something that will have a clear beginning and end. Something that at least seems immediately useful…

This will take a bit more soul searching to get to grips with. And in the meantime, I think I’ll pack my bag and fix my saxophone…


Bastiaan ReininkI’m Bastiaan. This blog is meant to give you some insight into the things I run into and perhaps to inspire you to go in search of your own life extraordinaire.

I love to connect, so if you have thoughts, ideas or questions based on this (or another) post, please leave me a comment!

Nov 082014
 

My challenge for last month was to open up the file for my book, at least six days per week.

I've got a lot of stuff written, but now it still needs to be put in the right order...

I’ve got a lot of stuff written, but now it still needs to be put in the right order…

It didn’t go quite as well as I had hoped… I think if I opened it up 4 days per week I have to count myself lucky.

And of course, just opening a file is not the real goal. My assumption was that if I opened it, I would work on it as well. This came true about 75% of the time I think. I found myself deliberately taking the easy way out by opening the file and then immediately closing it again.

Where the challenge didn’t go so well itself, it was a very useful experience. Creating the pre-requisite for the work (opening the file) did work in the 75% of the cases where I did it. Not a bad score at all!

What I could have done better is to create a very specific moment / trigger for when I’d do the work. When I previously had the challenge to run every day, I also set that I would do this right out of work and if I couldn’t (due to social obligations) I would do it right after waking up. I actually planned my day around this (we do this with work, why not with other things?). And I had thought to do the same, but then a pair of beautiful dark eyes came along and that kinda messed up my schedule (not blaming her, this is my own doing!).

And finally, I have been having the feeling I’m burning the candle at both ends, feeling very tired when coming home from work, which is not particularly productive to get a lot of things done.

Lessons to take away:

  • Setting a goal for the step before the work actually works quite well
  • A very specific time / trigger helps
  • Being well rested helps even more!

Challenge for this month: No challenge, just enjoy the pair of beautiful black eyes (and the rest of the package), get a bit more sleep, relax a bit more. But no stress if I don’t!

Oct 312014
 

”He walked into the room and her heart skipped a beat. Wordlessly he walked up to her and it felt as though his dark eyes pierced to the depths of her soul. Strong yet oh so gentle hands closed behind her back and she felt herself pressed against his broad chest. She closed her eyes, lost in the moment, lost for eternity when their lips met. She had kissed before, but it felt as though those had only been play, the little girl pretending to be a princess with the little boy as her knight. This was different…”

Muscled stranger, check. Fair maiden, check. Random and unimportant plot-twists, check. Unimaginative cover, check...

Muscled stranger, check. Fair maiden, check. Random and unimportant plot-twists, check. Unimaginative cover, check…

I’m not particularly well known when it comes to unashamed romance novels (a.k.a. porn for women). Luckily I have friends (ok, one) who know much more about them then I do. She was able to tell me that your average romance novel emphasizes three things: The woman heroine is beautiful but doesn’t know it. The man is silent and thus mysterious. The love between them is different.

The first so that a woman reading the book can identify with the heroine. The second so that she can portray her husband in the role of the charming stranger (most men are much more silent compared to women; how better to make that appealing than by making it mysterious?). And finally things have to be different, because your average housewife reading the literary equivalent of the McDonalds hamburger leads an all too predictable life.

But then, life is different when you’re in love, as I’ve been discovering very recently.

“Seduced by an angel”, “The maverick and the maiden”, A case for romance”, “Savage dreams”, “Prince of dreams”, “His wicked dream”, “More than a dream”. If those aren’t enough to melt any heart…?
The world has lost some of its beauty; where normally my head would turn at every beautiful woman, I find myself comparing and left feeling un-charmed. The world has gained beauty; sights made more spectacular for being shared (it’s amazing that that even works for the unadorned walls of your own bedroom…). I’m sleep-deprived but at the same bounce through life on a bubble of energy.

It’s easy now. I’m in love. But having been through the mill of love ample times, I know that those feelings don’t last forever. But I do believe that it is possible to keep those feelings for a long time. Especially with some help from romance novels:

  • She is beautiful (charming, funny, smart, sweet), be the one that sees that
  • It’s ok to be silent. As long as you continue to create a bit of mystery
  • Do something different with some regularity. Yes it takes energy, but it gives it back many times over

Happy loving (and reading!)!


Bastiaan ReininkI’m Bastiaan. This blog is meant to give you some insight into the things I run into and perhaps to inspire you to go in search of your own life extraordinaire.

I love to connect, so if you have thoughts, ideas or questions based on this (or another) post, please leave me a comment!