“Do. Or do not. There is no try.”Perhaps the most memorable quote from the entire Star Wars trilogy.
And it works. Luke Skywalker, the quintessential hero, goes out and does. He defeats the Empire, confronts his father and makes friends with nauseatingly cute little cave-men. He doesn’t get the girl, but that’s because she’s his sister…
And though it isn’t exactly easy, he has a huge advantage: Yoda. (That, and it’s a movie so the good guy has to win…)
The all-wise little green dude that is happy to share his life-long gathered insights (mostly instilled through whacks on the fingers). “Follow my teachings and all will be well”. And so it was. ”Do. Or do not. There is no try.”
How different it is in real life. There might be enough people out there happy to tell us what to do, but they are rarily wise and even more rarely have our best interests at heart. We have no map, there is no “right” way. Only with hindsight can we say that something got us what we expected (hoped) it would bring us. And even then we regularly find that even though we got what we wanted, we should have wanted something different to begin with…
In real life it’s a combination: Do or do not. Your choice. But either way, you’re just trying.
Which is frustrating of course. So much easier to buy the book with 32 easy steps that lead to guaranteed happiness, bliss and world peace. If only that existed…
Yet it’s also liberating. If you’re just trying then there really isn’t any failure. You tried it and it got (or not) what you expected. And now you’re unhappy (or not) with the outcome, so you can do less (more) of it in the future. And then try something new.
We make things up as we go along. Draw the map as we’re stumbling through the (urban) jungle. Figuring some things out that work, others that don’t. We try and therefore we are (or is that too philosophical? ).
Now to make this a bit more personal.
So, goodbye monthly challenge, hello monthly experiment!
And to kick it off, the experiment for this month will be nicely vague, unmeasurable, without a goal. The experiment is to try to let go of the outcome of things and to instead enjoy the process of getting there.
I’ll share insights in month
I’m Bastiaan. This blog is meant to give you some insight into the things I run into and perhaps to inspire you to go in search of your own life extraordinaire.
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