Apr 282013
 

Humanity consists of two different types of people: Conformists and adventurers.

Conformists are happy with the way things are, would like as little change as possible, want tomorrow to be the same as today, which should be the same as yesterday.

Everybody can be a hero. Superpowers not required(but cool if you have them!)

Everybody can be a hero. Superpowers not required(but cool if you have them!)

Adventurers on the other hand are happy when things change, when there are opportunities and chances. Tomorrow should be different from today, which hopefully was not the same as yesterday.

The majority of people are conformists. Which makes perfect sense: It’s the saver option. Sure, things might not be perfect, but if things are ticking along quite well, why change it. We need these people. They form the basis of our society. They form the core, the heart of what we are and stand for.

On the edges are the adventurers. The few who strike out on their own or in small bands in search for pastures greener, gold or the next big thing. And it’s good that they are few. If everybody packed up their bags to head for the horizon, there quickly wouldn’t be a lot of humanity left. Because adventure is risky. For every greener valley there are ten that are barren or already inhabited (and guess what happens when an adventure tries to claim an already inhabited valley?).

Still, there are quite a few adventurers who do make it (even if it’s only because those are the only ones you ever hear of). The hero who crossed that mountain ridge and came back to tell about it. The entrepreneur with the bright idea that actually worked.

The first time something is done, it changes perception. So the ridge can be crossed. And if one person does it, there will be a next one. And a next. Until it gets common to cross that ridge. And it becomes a part of general culture “Of course we go across the ridge, we’ve always been going across that ridge.” Except of course we haven’t always

The first to cross is the hero. And in a sense she is very important. But in just as real a sense, she isn’t. If she hadn’t done it, someone else, eventually, would have. Adventures call out to adventurers. Heroes are common.

I definitely identify with the “adventurer” group. Too bad just about every ridge in the world has already been crossed. Luckily adventures and “new” things can be found just about anywhere.
In the end it’s not about the hero. It’s about the people who follow. The second person to cross. The tenth. The hundredth. The thousandth. They all help to make the crossing common. Making it that more likely for others to follow.

I even have a point to this story, which is:

Do the right thing!

You might not be the first. You might not be the champion or the hero. But you help making it common, the (new) normal thing to do. Give, and the people around you are more likely to give (because “everybody’s doing it”). Care about the environment, the ones in need, economic oppression. And show that you care, so that others know that they are not alone in caring.

Everybody can be a bit of a hero!

Apr 262013
 

I’m typing this on my laptop. My finger hits a key and instantaneously another character appears on the screen. Just me and the output.

Behind the scenes however a whole lot more is going on. Through my headphones music is being piped into my skull. On the background Firefox and Skype are patiently waiting until I’ll give them attention again that they deserve. Every minute the clock in my lower right corner dutifully adds another tick.

It's the 99% that you don't see that sinks the Titanic...

It’s the 99% that you don’t see that sinks the Titanic…

And behind that there is even more going on. The processor is running all sorts of “systems” processes that I don’t know about and don’t want to know about (until the moment they stop working and my computer freezes up or crashes).

In fact the amount that is going onbehind the scenes is way larger than what is actually happening on my screen.

The human mind works about the same way. Our consciousness is directed at different parts of reality (either in the outside world or in our own inside world),whilst on the background our sub-consiousness takes care of just about everything else (from digesting breakfast, to fighting off germs, keeping my balance, processing all the input that comes in through my senses (and throwing away more than 99% of it, so that I can actually concentrate on writing this), etc.)

Which is great!

It allows me to do what I want and to let the low-level processes get handled by my sub-consciousness.

Except that I am just as much my consciousness as I am my sub-consciousness… And the sub-consciousness does more than “keeping things ticking along”. It does a lot of data processing. Not just filtering out sensory input, but also “thinking about things”. Forming connections. Running comparisons. Creating scenarios. Visiting the past. Creating the future. And when something becomes important enough, it is fed back to the consciousness.

Which is great!

Unless the consciousness doesn’t really want to be bothered with it right then.

The past few weeks I’ve been having a lot of trouble getting to sleep. Thoughts kept popping into my mind. “Shouldn’t forget to talk to…” “The best way to handle that tricky problem is…” “I wonder if this possible lead I got yesterday might actually come to something…”. None of these thoughts were “bad”. In fact, most were very fascinating, interesting projections of the future. Something I was looking forward to.

But not while I was trying to sleep!

Even though I slept well, I’m incredibly happy that it’s weekend! Who’s up for drinks?
Of course, this was (just) my sub-consciousness trying to help me out. And it was doing a great job. I was thinking about all sorts of important things. Except that I would much rather think about these at some other time.

So made a deal with my sub-consciousness. I promised that I wouldn’t forget about these things. I promised that they would get the attention they deserved. Of course just saying that to yourself isn’t enough. You’ve got to put your money where your mouth is. So I added another sheet to my todo list on my computer. And I added all of these worthwhile-but-not-right-now thoughts to them.

My not-to-worry-about list.

And I slept like a baby!

Apr 222013
 

“Here’s my card! So nice meeting you, gotto run, I see some more people who look like they really need my card as well…”

This was my image of networking. Having as short and as superficial a conversation as possible, with the sole intention of pushing a business card into someone’s hands, in the hopes that they will be exactly the right person to help you to the next gig, a huge sale or the perfect job. And of course, if it’s not this person then surely the next: Simply increase the number of cards you hand out and you’ve got to strike gold at some point. Right?

They say we are just 5 handshakes away from anybody on the planet. Don't know what you would do with a second-hand handshake though...

They say we are just 5 handshakes away from anybody on the planet. Don’t know what you would do with a second-hand handshake though…

Ok, so maybe I never really believed the above. But I wasn’t so sure what networking did mean.

This Saturday I was at a seminar and someone mentioned that they were looking to get into event management but were having a hard time of it. The first thing that went through my head was “I know someone who just might be able to help…”. We struck up a conversation and I told her about my friend who had it made in event management and that I would see if I could get them in touch with each other. She was enthusiastic. And she said something to me that really surprised me: “You are so great at networking!”

But… But… I was just trying to help…

And of course, that’s exactly what it is. Networking isn’t about me, it’s about the other person. I hear something that rings a bell regarding someone I know. Maybe they can be of service to each other. And maybe they can’t, that’s out of my control. But the least I can do is connect them, let them figure it out afterwards. Extremely simple for me, yet so valuable for them; without me they might never have made this connection.

Yesterday we had the first barbeque of the year. It truly is getting to be spring!
It’s about the other person, not about me. Except that for the other it is about me. Or at least I hope that they are also thinking about whether they know someone that can give me a boot up.

The “secret” of networking is helping others. Specifically helping them connect to the people you already know. And it’s about getting help from others, to connect to the people they already know.

What are you looking for? Don’t hesitate to mention this next time you’re in unfamiliar company, maybe someone knows someone who is exactly the person you’ve got to meet! Just don’t forget to reply the favor when you can.

Apr 192013
 

“If you can guess the two things in the box, I’ll bring cake to work next week!”

My (new, temporary) colleagues did in the end guess that the main thing in the big box I had just walked in with was a saxophone. The fact that it also contained two chorizo sausages saved me from having to buy cake (as I knew very well when I posed the wager).

This is exactly what our pianist looked like! Almost...

This is exactly what our pianist looked like! Almost…

Directly from work I went to Coevorden, where I was born and raised and where almost all of my family still lives. Every Thursday night my brother gets together with some of his friends in the small studio in his house, to jam the night away. And I had been kindly invited to join them.

A beer, a bit of chorizo (I didn’t drag the damned thing with my for nothing after all!) later and then it was time make some funky music!

I’ve been playing the saxophone well over 7 years now. I’m getting to be reasonably good at it. But I still have a lot of trouble playing together with people. “They know how to play together and I’ll just be in the way…” “What if I play a completely wrong note…?” “And if I get completely out of rhythm…?”

Thinking that you’re not quite up to someone else’s standard can be very intimidating!

Of course, there is no way to know if you’re up to it except to try. And even if you’re not, the only way to get there, is by practicing.

Guess what: Learning to play together doesn’t come from practicing alone!

Some songs went well, some songs I really did feel that they were better of without me. And then there were the few true gems where the sound of the saxophone roared through the studio, linked in with the guitar and piano, driven on by the drums, mingling with the singer… The few songs where everything worked and where we produced some real music!

Speaking of music, I was cycling home the other night, singing “I will survive” at the top of my lungs (as you do after a beer or 3…) when this guys comes cycling next to me and joins in perfectly! Instant street choir!
Does it matter that not all of them were perfect? That some of them were definitely worse with me than they would’ve been without me? Of course not! Next time we’ll have 3 great songs instead of 2. And the time after that 4. And so on…

Practice makes perfect. And it can be very scary to step onto the stage before you’re “perfect”. But in the end it’s about having fun together, discovering what’s possible.

I’m looking forward to the next time!

Apr 162013
 

Do you know those people who go: “Blablabla. Bla. Blabla bla blablablabla!”?

Who do nothing but talk, never produce a single thing? Well, if you’re lucky they’ll produce a document. Which is full of “Blabla bla blabla” as well.

Consultants!

I really dislike those people.

Beware the mighty stakeholder!

Beware the mighty stakeholder!

They always have such high ideas, about how to change things, make things better. But they never stick round quite long enough to see the results of their handy-work. They’re never around to see the chaos they leave behind, once the smoke clears and there is nobody to talk sweet little nothings into the ears of management: “Just listen to me, and everything will be all right. You can relax, finally take it a bit easier. Let me take care of this, let me write you a nice document, let me talk to the right people and everything will be better.”

They use big words, like “corporate synergy” (that’s the combination of all the sins that the corporation has commited), “stakeholder” (consulting vampires can only be killed with a stake through the heart, so they’re extra careful of the people actually holding the stake) or “quantum entanglement” (ok, maybe that last one is one of my physics-nerd friends…), so that you never really know what they mean. But it sounds impressive and you don’t want to be the first to admit that you don’t actually know what they’re talking about (let someone else do the dirty work, you’re not getting paid for that!).

Imagine my surprise, nay, dismay(!) when I woke up this morning and realized I had become one of them!

My latest assignment involves a lot of talking. And some writing. “If we do it this way, everything will work better. Trust me. I know what I’m doing. I’m a consultant…”.

Even though it’s good to have an assignment, it’s also hard. Rushing from bed to work to social obligations to bed is leaving me somewhat tired… The upside of this is that I’m really appreciating my weekends again!
The difference of course is that I really know what I’m doing. And I really am trying to help. And so far even the people who actually produce something seem happy to have me around…

Not only that, I love what I’m doing! I might not be directly creating anything right now. But I’m helping (trying to…) a lot of other people produce something which better. In a more efficient way. I’m not doing the work myself, but I’m a part of the work of a lot of other people.

So far, so good…

I’m still keeping my eyes out for those stakeholders though!