One of my strong beliefs is that just about anything can be learned. If I really want to run a marathon, I could train until I could. If I really wanted to design a space ship I could take a few years of my life to become an aeronautical engineer (or whatever the title is of the people who designed the Enterprise and the Millennium Falcon).The above relates mostly to practical / physical skills. Very important for everyday life, as they influence what you can and can’t do (well) and through that they influence what you do and don’t enjoy (being good at something definitely helps enjoying it!), which then influence what you actually do.
There are however also other things that make us who we are. Personality traits, temperaments. How alert are you? How much do you enjoy romantic activities? Are you thorough or a slob?
In my feeling these are far more set. You might see slight drifts over time, but in general you die with the same set you were born with. Most importantly, there is nothing to “learn” about these.
Interestingly enough, I recently found a counter example to this.
Patience has never been my strong suit. I much prefer things yesterday than tomorrow and I’ll settle for right now if that’s the only choice.
Yet over my years of life, the universe has consistently been serving me a message: ”Stuff takes time.”
Through all that something must have gotten engrained in my subconscious: “Don’t worry, it’ll work out.” Or: “No need to fret, let’s go do something else in the meantime.”
I’m still very far away from your average zen monk, but I’m definitely better than I was a few years back. And learning isn’t so much about being good, as it is about getting better.
I am better, I am more patient.
Which makes me wonder: What other personality traits are actually amendable to learning?
I can’t wait to find out…
Hi, I’m Bastiaan. This blog is meant to give you some insight into the things I run into and perhaps to inspire you to go in search of your own life extraordinaire.
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