My parents, my brother and me (and any serious girlfriends, if they happen to be around and have time) have a very nice tradition of going on snow vacation for a week every year.That week is now.
It’s great to be out together, really having time to talk and discuss (which we do a lot!), have a good dinner with a drink (or two). All of this is in the evening.
What you do during the day on a snow vacation is (in my case) snowboard or (in many other cases) ski.
I’ve been snowboarding for quite a few years now. And I’ve gotten to be good at it. Which is not a blessing per-se. Because being good at it also means that there is far less possibility for improvement. And (as our discussion yesterday evening brought up), I love improving / growing.
So though I still very much enjoy our vacations, the actual day-time is getting just a little bit boring. And I don’t take boring very well…
This morning I really wasn’t feeling it. I wanted to relax, spend my time reading, writing, walking around. But how do you say that? How do you say to your parents that you want to do something else?
It’s not that my parents are difficult to talk to or stubborn. Quite the opposite, they are the most understanding and caring people in the world (feel free to feel the same about your parents, I don’t have a patent on this feeling… ). Yet having known each other for so long (and having gone on these vacations for so long) it’s very difficult to get out of the long-established routines.
Long story short, I simply said that I wasn’t going snowboarding today and when asked, I explained my reasons for enjoying it less. This got a whole discussion started on that we might also do something different some time (the three weeks in South America with my parents and the week in Scotland with my brother and dad were great!). Not just did I enjoy my day doing what I wanted, it also opened up a whole plethora of new ideas.
Sometimes it really is very difficult to not care too much about what people might think. But so far I’ve only felt very positive when having done so. Even with those most difficult of people: Parents!