As you might have noticed I write on this blog quite regularly. What I try to do is to take something from my life and generalize that. It might be an anecdote on something that happened a mistake or an insight. It seems inspiration is everywhere…By default this becomes (somewhat) personal. Which is fine by me. It’s my life and I don’t mind sharing if I believe it can somehow benefit someone (including myself: I get a lot out of my writing, such as a time to reflect and sometimes completely new insights as well).
I try to be very careful when I write about others. It’s not their blog, they don’t (usually) have direct influence on what I write. And not everybody likes having their (personal) life shared here.
This is one reason I haven’t been writing overly much about my most recent relationship(s).
Or at least this is the excuse I’m using…
Because to be completely honest, I’m scared to write about it!
My relationships are out of the ordinary. Uncommon. Strange. Weird!
I’m dating a girl who has a girlfriend. I’m seeing someon on the side as well.
When I talk to people about this reactions range from interested to incredulous (and usually a bit of both).
Reactions however have never been downright negative. I’ve gotten the “that would not be for me”, which I can understand. Or “I’d be so incredibly jealous”, which I also get.
I do things differently. Because it works better for me than doing things the way most people do them. I make my own choices whilst respecting the choices of others. Is it then so strange to expect the same from those others, to have my choices respected, if not agreed with?
Recent experience seems to indicate that my choices do get respected. And every time that happens it becomes just that bit easier to talk about them. Easy enough to now (again) face my fears, to write about something that cuts extremely close to the bone.
I’m very happy with the choices that I make. I’d like to stop being afraid that others would want to take away some of that happiness.
I’m Bastiaan. I write this blog to give you some insight into the things I run into and perhaps to inspire you to go in search of your own life extraordinaire.
I love to connect, so if you have thoughts, ideas or questions based on this (or another) post, please leave me a comment!