I just got back from a week away to Portugal. And as much as I love to travel alone, I love to travel with someone special even more. Luckily, I met someone very special not so long ago…In fact, it was only slightly more than a month ago that we first met. Booking a vacation together within a month of knowing each other was certainly a record for me (and for her as well). A few of her friends had kindly but urgently asked her whether it really was a good idea to head of with this random stranger she knew only for so little time (my own friends didn’t say a thing. Probably because they’re more used to me doing strange things (or perhaps it was the fact that I didn’t really ask anybody’s opinion on it…)).
Now I could write something about “true love”, “soul mates”, and “not a moment of doubt”. But that would most definitely not be in line with my thoughts.
Yes, I was worried about being “stuck” with someone I hardly knew for a whole week. What if our travel ideas were completely different? What if we got into a huge fight? What if…
But more than doubts and worries, I felt trust.
First, trust in her, that she was a good person. Human and thus bound to be imperfect (just like myself), but with a kind heart and willing to work to make the experience pleasant if not enjoyable for the both of us.
Second, trust in myself. That I would be able to indicate when something was bothering me, that I would listen to her when she voiced an opinion or idea.
And finally, trust in the both of us, that we would work things out if there was frustration. That we both wanted to make the other person happy, despite set-backs (did I mention we had heavy rain for all but one day?).
It could have worked out differently of course. We could have had that huge row. But even then, isn’t it better to know that as soon as possible, instead of finding out after having been together for a year (or more)?
Trust is fragile and precious. But that doesn’t mean you should hoard it, keep it safe to your chest. It means that you should give it quickly, so that it can either grow over time, or wither away quickly. The people who are not worthy of trust you cut out of your life, so that there is more space to keep the ones close that are.
I’m Bastiaan. This blog is meant to give you some insight into the things I run into and perhaps to inspire you to go in search of your own life extraordinaire.
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